My husband was the one to originally ask me to go fuck around with other guys. I was trying to set up a threesome but he didn't want to be compared so he decided I should still get kinky til he was comfortable.
Anyways I received a lot a lot of attention and I responded to it. I grew up religious and my hubs was the only guy I ever fucked. So I didn't just dip my toes in, I jumped straight into the deep end and loved it. Maybe he didn't expect me to get the attention I received, I certainly didn't. I've had quite the self esteem boost and have learned so much about what I want, like and need in sex. But as time has gone on the novelty has faded away, I have 3 guys a meet and then hubby. I have closed my tinder/etc apps and I've called it good.
But here is the insecurity part.. he never stops comparing his weight or looks to the guys I mess around with still. He constantly asks if I'm going to leave him. He will get upset over the slightly hint that I'm too tired for sex (he only ever wants to fuck when it's like 2am and we are drifting to sleep basically) and it's driving me crazy!! I don't understand how he can't just take my words seriously. I am NOT polyamorous. I care a lot for the people Ive stuck to fucking, but they aren't my hubs and they never will be, no matter the dick or wallet size. He is insecure about his weight, cock size, paychecks, success, everything! I use to console it, but I am tired of keeping up because I feel like he is turning me into a bad guy now... I don't care he is overweight, I love his tummy... I don't care his dick isn't AS big as the other guys I mess with, I've learned through this whole ordeal that he IS bigger then average... I don't care about small paychecks, we've been poor since day 1 of our relationship 6 years ago, money isn't what made me love him... And his success still has time to bloom, he's 26, my fuck buddies are 37, 53 and 42... They've had more time to figure shit out...
I just wish he could see that I'm NOT drifting from him... I just have found some gigs to fill my time and holes up when he is busy...
Also he hasn't been cumming in me at all... Which is a huge kink for me and I make my friends rubber up, so I am feeling deprived haha...
Also also... He has been to my orgy parties with these guys and I got 2 hot lesbian cam girls to fuck him while I gave the thumbs up with a massive grin outside the bedroom... Like... He gets fun too. He just doesn't see the value like I do I guess. Which is fine... I just don't want us to close the relationship yet...
What was my question? Basically help me... Lol.
His idea his problem he has to understand that you still love him more than the other men but you might just like the sex of other men nothing more
Sounds like he needs an ego boost. maybe let him experiment infront of you?
Let him know that out of everyone hes still the best sex youve had
Don't worry he'll get back around to cumming in you I can proimise you that
You don’t have to help him boost his ego. He is a cuck, he doesn’t need an ego boost. He wanted to be a second choice, it’s going to take a while for him to adapt, wait a few month. Instead of letting him
fuck - tell him to masturbate instead!
you could also let one of your bulls put him in his place! I did that to one of the wifes I was seeing!
I would like to see those holes wich you fill up in the spare time 😎